dear dorothy

Dear Dorothy,

I had a relationship with a women when I was 15, (she was 20). We were in love and it seemed very natural to me, although I suppose I should have felt guilty about it. A year later my lover had to go away and I was heartbroken. I haven't seen her since.

Now I am 20 and find myself increasingly attracted to women, although I will never forget my first.

My problem is, and this is my reason to writing to you, I come out to my family a few weeks ago and they have given me one month to get out of the house. I am tom apart with this. I cannot neglect my sexuality, however neither can I neglect my family as I love them very much. Can you please help me, give me some hints on reconciling myself with my family. I hope to hear from you soon.

Anxious

Dear Anxious,

This is a problem that many gay men and women face and it is not an easy one. Most parents have a problem coming to terms with their child's homosexuality and such thoughts as:

1. "What have I some wrong"

2. "Is there something wrong with my genes"

3. "Was he/she abused as a child"

4. "Is it just a phase".

Go through parents heads. You must realise that you have had time to become accustomed with your homosexuality. Your parents haven't. They do need time. It is important for them to realise that you are the same daughter you were before you came out to them. Remember that they do really love you. otherwise they wouldn't be so shocked, there is no point going back into the closet at this stage so you must be very sure of yourself. Stick to your guns and give them time. We do have a Parents Enquiry Group. Maybe sometime in the future you could mention this to sexual people. They gave come to terms with their children homosexuality and can be very helpful to talk to there is also a lesbian discussion group that you could attend if you wished. There you will receive encouragement and reassurance. If you wish to find out more about this contact!

Gay Youth Line-Sunday 2-4p.m.

Tel: 777847